ABOUT ALENA
I don’t work with parents who are looking for better discipline techniques, quick fixes, or scripts to control behavior.
I work with thoughtful, committed parents who have already tried to understand themselves, and still find themselves reacting under pressure in ways they don’t want.
They care deeply about their children.
They’ve read the books.
They’ve done therapy, coaching, or personal development.
And yet, when stress hits, time is tight, or emotions run high, the same patterns keep showing up.
Not because they aren’t trying.
But because the pattern they’re dealing with was never addressed as a whole.
Over the years, I’ve seen the same dynamic repeat across families, cultures, and backgrounds.
Parents often work on one part of the issue at a time:
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understanding their past (therapy)
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managing their stress (mindfulness, yoga)
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learning parenting strategies
Each of these can help – and many parents have done all of them.
But when they’re treated separately, the core pattern often stays intact.
The nervous system that learned early on how to handle pressure, connection, and emotional safety is the same nervous system that reacts under stress today (and the same one children learn from every day).
Until that pattern itself is healed and rewired as one integrated system, it tends to adapt and continue, even when parents are doing their best.
My role
My role is not to motivate, fix, or push people into change.
My role is to help parents see the pattern clearly, work with it safely, and change it in a way that actually holds under real-life pressure – not just in calm moments or intellectual understanding.
I work end-to-end:
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with the root of the pattern
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with how it shows up in the present
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and with how it’s being modeled into the future
So change doesn’t rely on willpower, constant self-control, or endless looping.
About My Work
I’m the founder of Zen Supermom and the creator of the IDTR method – Intergenerational Developmental Trauma Repatterning.
IDTR is an integrated approach designed to work with patterns that:
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formed early (past)
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live in the nervous system (present)
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and repeat across generations (future)Â unless addressed as a whole
So that loving but stressed out parents can stay calm when triggered and communicate healthy boundaries with their kids (without punishing, bribing, or collapsing into asking 1000 times nicely).
I’m a trauma-informed coach, podcast host, author, and doctoral researcher focused on developmental and intergenerational trauma, not as abstract theory, but as something that shows up in everyday family life.
What I Believe (And What I Don’t)
I don’t believe in retraumatizing people in the name of healing.
I don’t believe in bypassing pain with positivity.
And I don’t believe in creating dependence on a coach, method, or system.
I believe in clarity, consent, and change that integrates into real life (rather than an info that lives in your head and is uselss when you get under pressure…)
I believe parents deserve support that respects their intelligence, autonomy, and capacity – without pressure or performance.
If my way of working resonates, you’ll find clear next steps throughout this site.
And if it doesn’t, I trust you to keep looking for support that truly fits you.
Both matter.
